Do You Really Need Goals?
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let's dive into today's topic.
This topic came to me while I
was reading and listening to
other online law firm marketers
and coaches discuss how goal
setting is rather passe that
instead you should simply change
your mindset and good things
will come to you no need for
goals. So I chuckled to myself,
because I know for a fact that
those very same markers and
coaches not only set goals, but
they hire coaches and they
invest 1000s of dollars and
hours. In working to achieve
those goals. It's just what
ambitious driven people do. We
like to compete, especially
against ourselves. So yeah, most
of us are goal setters. But it
got me thinking about whether or
not setting goals can feel off
putting to some people, maybe
because they have set them in
the past and they felt let down
when they didn't achieve them.
Maybe you can relate to that. Or
maybe because it feels like so
much pressure to set goals.
Perhaps it's because they
believe something is wrong with
them, if they change their minds
about what they want. But
they're stuck because they made
some public declar declaration
about a goal they set back in
New Years. Right. So can you
relate to any of that?
I know, I've certainly been in
those different situations. Have
you seen that meme going around
that says something like change
your plan, but NEVER BE Goal
guides. So if we set a goal to
lose 40 pounds in 2022, but
after we lose 30 We find we feel
pretty good that way and losing
any more would make us look
emaciated. What we can't change
our goal to lose 40 pounds. I
mean, that's silly. I mean, of
course you can change your
goals. I say they're your goals,
and you don't need anyone's
permission to change them. Nor
do you owe anybody an
explanation. Many times we think
what we think we want is not
what we want at all. But only
setting goals and taking action
to achieve them provides that
clarity for us. So I've worked
with many women, law firm owners
who who start out thinking that
their goals are XYZ. And then as
time goes along, and they do the
work and they get into their
business, they begin to realize
that maybe their goals weren't
lofty enough, or maybe that's
not really what they wanted
those goals that they set. So
certainly you're free to change
your goals. Good goals are
really just about your vision
for the future. They are an
articulation of what you want
for yourself. And when we create
them, when we write them down,
we say them aloud. They are very
powerful tools in helping us
live the life we imagine we want
to live. Recently though, I was
in conversation with someone who
suggested that instead of
thinking in terms of goals,
which can feel really bloated
for some people, we might want
to shift to fantasizing.
fantasizing sounds way more fun
and sexy than goals doesn't. In
our fantasies, everything we
desire, we can have
instantaneously. So no hard work
is required. No buy in from
others, no money is required.
You don't need permission from
anybody, you can just go to that
happy place in your head. So it
was quite an interesting idea to
me because my philosophy has
been a bit different throughout
my entire life. I never wanted
my life to live only in danger.
I remember being a young woman
and reading romance novels, or
having if you've ever read
Harlequin romance novels or any
of those historical romance
novels, maybe some of you still
do. But I decided I can either
read about love or I can go out
and I can find it. I get livid.
I didn't want to read fantasies
I wanted To lift them up. So for
me, that's what goals are really
about. It's about taking that
fantasy that life been dreaming
about, and taking action to make
it a reality. What do you what
do I want grasping? What do I
want? What is step one to
achieving it, what is step two,
and so on and so forth. Weirdly,
though, it's both worked for me
and not worked. And I suspect
that's just the human condition,
everyone is going to experience
hills and valleys in their life,
regardless of how much goal
setting you do, and how many
goals you achieve, right. As I
got older, though, I realized
that fantasies play a much more
important role than I realized,
when I was younger. How
fantasies allow us to a way to
get into the emotional state of
having what we believe it is we
must have to be happy, content
or satisfied. So you see, I
never considered how important
it is to be in the right
emotional state, before taking
action on my goals. That is
until I tried to bulldoze my way
through life toward my goals,
and wound up burnout and deeply
unsatisfied. Having a strong
vision, or a fantasy, about what
life will be like when we
achieve our goals actually helps
us to achieve those goals in a
much faster, much easier way.
Why? Because we are in the
emotional state experiencing all
the feelings of already having
everything we desire. And when
we do so we are vibrating on a
higher frequency where those
things we desire likely live,
whether that's a loving
relationship or prosperity, or
traveling the world, whatever
that fantasy is for you. As
Abraham Hicks says, for those of
you know, know that I love law
of attraction, Abraham Hicks and
study that Abraham Hicks says
it's like tuning your radio into
the frequency so you can clearly
hear your favorite show. So if
you're just a few notches over
on the dial, everything sounds,
staticky, the more dialed in you
are the better everything
sounds. So the way to dial in to
what you most desire is to
fantasize to elevate your
frequency to already get in that
happy place in your mind.
Where you already have
everything you already want. And
then pay attention to what those
fantasies reveal to you about
you. Then when you're feeling
all the joy of already having
everything you desire, you're in
the perfect place to begin to
take not just action, but
inspire action. Perhaps by
setting and baby stepping your
way through your goals. Now
you're coming from a place of
inspiration, not a place of half
to the minute your goals begin
to feel like pressure or
drudgery. It is time to go back
to your happy place in your mind
and fantasize a little bit more.
And feel the satisfaction of
knowing that at any time, you
can feel the joy of having
everything your heart desires.
Truth be told that and not goal
setting is your real superpower.
It's my real superpower, all of
our all human being superpower.
What would happen in your life
in your business today, if you
started activating this
superpower more often. So that's
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